Life Is a Toy Box: How to Re-purpose Your Life Choices to Find Happiness

October 01, 2012
life-is-a-toy-box-find-happiness-in-your-lifeWhen my child was small, we set up a toy box for her in our family room. She was in it constantly. She took one toy out, played with it for some time until she became not interested in it anymore. She then went back to the toy box to fetch a different thing to play with. She played with that one for a while until it started to bore her too. This sometimes went on for a couple of hours every single day.

She also “mixed” her toys up, repurposed them and shifted her collection around. She was driving that show! Her entire childhood she made a great use of her toy box – finding things that were in the box and re-discovering them again. She was certain that there would always be “something” in her toy box. If she did not like what was already in the box, my daughter simply created what she was after at the moment. Her unshaken belief in her own creativity made it possible for her to come up with virtually inexhaustible choices for her toys and games. She also was a main character in a lot of stories she told herself and the toys she was playing with at the moment. Rarely, did the stories repeat themselves.

Most kids play like that until one day we stop and gradually replace our toy box with a linear pathway to “accomplishment” – education, jobs, and families. We now aim to be “somebody” and to go “somewhere”.

We stop playing, mixing it up, challenging ourselves with new ideas and viewpoints. Soon, we close the lid on the toy box of our mind. We become fearful to lose what we have already achieved. Life brings us a variety of twists, challenges and trials. We also start doubting that anything good or exciting would ever happen in our life. Over time, this limiting belief causes us to develop funky moods.

If our funky mood persists, it becomes a collection of many catabolic energy moods, such as apathy, anxiety, boredom, anger, shame, confusion, frustration, gloom, fear, depression, discontent, or rejection among many others. We store our ‘funky moods‘ collections in our minds, which become stuck, just like a toy chest that has not been opened in years.

We all could learn from my child, and other children, who constantly question, probe, challenge themselves and remove any obstacles that get in the way of their happiness. They dig in their toy chests and in their minds to re-shuffle what does not work anymore.
With every toy and game that comes out from the toy box, a new and exciting belief and possibility is created.

What is in your life’s toy box?

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I love this conversation! After a recent move to Florida as a senior citizen, I found myself re-negotiating life … new places to visit, new friends, new health care, new shopping centers, and surprises about life around every corner. I asked myself a lot of questions and went through some funky moods. I knew, though, I had been through a transition marked by an ending of leaving my home state, living in a kind of limbo as I explored the state, and then finally settling into a new home. Renata’s coaching helped me sort through this; with her assistance, I regenerated myself and, as Patti LaBelle so eloquently puts it: The wires uncrossed and the table was turned.
I’ve got a new attitude.

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Glad you liked this post. It is one of my favorites!

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