The issues we focused on with many of my clients were often practical and immediate, such as a career change or relationship refocus. As a life coach, I usually act as a guide and resource and do not demand that the client conforms to any way of life or psychic reality foreign to him or herself.
However, almost all of my clients came to me because they had some core emotional, mental, or spiritual issues that they could not resolve for themselves and that would require a different set of principles to alter. They needed a psychotherapist. So I decided to become one and to combine my coaching skills and experience with psychotherapy training and license. I am currently pursuing a psychodynamic psychotherapy license in Toronto where the profession is regulated by the College of Registered Psychotherapists.
Psychodynamic psychotherapy is not prescriptive and values the unique subjectivity of each individual’s psychic life. It is the oldest and best-established mode of working in psychotherapy. Its focus is on enabling the client to make independent decisions so the therapists do not offer advice or solutions, which makes it similar to life coaching. Instead, clients make their own best choices at their own rate.
I am currently doing personal psychotherapy so that I am able to better understand my own psychic tendencies and avoid allowing them to interfere with the individuality and needs of my clients.
Good therapy pays attention to the subconscious or unconscious. Dreams, jokes, stray thoughts, symbols, synchronicities, and other aspects of the creative imagination are very helpful phenomena and an important means through which to understand the basis of human difficulties.
A therapist is there to help you understand the issues in your life and strengthen your capacity to make your own decisions. Psychodynamic therapists believe that their clients do best by working out their own decisions and view psychotherapy as a process in which each of us assumes more and more individual responsibility for our life choices.
Generally, the need to ask for advice means that we have not yet understood something about ourselves; once we do, we are free to make a decision.
One theorist wrote: “Personal problems and difficulties in living are never just cognitive, never only a question of how something is interpreted or understood. There is always an affective, emotional, felt, concrete, experiential difficulty”.
As I am now exploring psychotherapy myself and building on my life moods niche in coaching, this blog is going to have to be altered somewhat to accommodate the most current issues and concerns in psychotherapy as well.
Wish me luck.